A Woman’s Worth
“At the essence of every woman’s heart is the divine feminine. It contains everything that has ever been beautiful, or lovely, or inspiring, in any woman, anywhere, at any time. The very essence of every woman’s heart is the peak of wisdom, the peak of inspiration, the peak of sexual desirability, the peak of soothing, healing love. The peak of everything. ”
I read this today and was startled not only by the fact that it was written by a man, but by the way it made me feel.
I was speaking to a friend a while ago and he told me that there is a tradition in India of offering young girls gifts at a particular time of the year. He said since migrating to America, his mother has kept up with this practice. He’s gotten angry with her from time to time saying “Mom, these girls aren’t like the ones back home. You don’t know what they’re like”.
The truth is…they are like the ones back home. I asked him what the girls here were like and he said “Sometimes you run into a girl and the only way to get through to her is to show her no respect.” I was appalled. Normally at this stage of the conversation I would have shut my mouth and changed the subject. For once, because I consider him one of my brothers I finally said something.
“If you have to disrespect a goddess of fortune, then you have no business talking to her in the first place”.
I was never quite sure if he got it but it needed to be said. I say this not to make us think as women that we should rule the world, but to unite us to come together in an understanding of our responsibility. We are all goddesses of fortune. But we have built up towers around ourselves…possibly with moats surrounding them. Maybe there is a rickety drawbridge and a fire-breathing dragon barring the way to our hearts. There is probably good reason for all of this protection. Sometimes we need to be strong and we need to be the one who is going to handle everything. Maybe we feel as though we can never depend on anyone else for help.
But at heart in our essence rests a goddess of fortune. No matter what mistakes we have made, or complicated issues we have in our lives. It doesn’t matter how many times we have had to fall, we are all worthy of being called goddesses. At a certain point I feel sometimes we forget this and we become just another woman. Sometimes we forget that we are worthy of respect at all. And there may be a man who will tell you that’s true. But there is always someone who is willing to acknowledge the beautiful divinity within us. As a woman we may think “who is there? Where is he? How will he get here? It seems impossible. There are too many others on the path who want to cut me down. Why go through this at all?” Remember Sita Devi too thought that she might not find him.
A friend once told me that each man has the potential to live up to what you expect of him. Sometimes it takes more of our powers as a woman. If you’re in a relationship, he is there. Believe. Pray. Wish. Hope. Trust me. I know how hard it is to do. I’m writing this as much for me as for anyone else. If you aren’t in a relationship…Believe…pray…wish…hope. He will come.
But you don’t have to take my word for it.
“Among women I am fame, fortune, fine speech, memory, intelligence, steadfastness and patience.” The Supreme Personality of Awesomeness
Sounds like a man who would adore a woman as his own goddess of fortune, right? Here’s a secret…all men know this…it’s just that memory is a woman’s trait
So, here’s to my husband of 2.5 years. I pray that with Radha Govinda’s mercy I can work hard to be worthy of the title of goddess of fortune and in doing so find those qualities which attract the ultimate supreme personality who lives in every man’s heart. That personality who doesn’t care if we speak in man language or woman language but helps us to love just the same. Here’s to learning to see his offerings from the heart and appreciating them in a way that is worthy of a deity.